Dad-To-Be Slammed for Drinking Whiskey Near Pregnant Wife: ‘Terrible Look’

Internet commenters were up in arms after one man detailed his wife’s “disrespectful” reaction to his continued drinking.

In a viral Reddit post published on r/AmITheA******, Redditor u/Strange-Chipmunk-254 (otherwise referred to as the original poster, or OP) said he drinks whiskey every night and revealed how his pregnant wife’s heightened sense of smell has driven a wedge between the soon-to-be parents.

Titled, “[Am I the a******] for having alcohol around my pregnant wife?” the post has received nearly 11,000 upvotes and 5,000 comments since November 28.

“My wife is four months pregnant and cannot stand the smell of alcohol,” OP began. “Even the smallest whiff from your breath or clothes will send her spewing.”

Glass of whiskey on table.
Glass of whiskey on table. Members of Reddit’s r/AmITheA****** forum called one father-to-be after he complained of his pregnant wife’s newfound sensitivity to the smell of alcohol.
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Continuing to explain that he loves “whiskey in the evening time,” the original poster said he tried numerous tactics to mitigate the alcohol odor by using mouthwash, changing his clothes and even showering before coming into contact with his wife.

However, the original poster also said his efforts have been unsuccessful—much to his dismay.

“We haven’t even kissed at night due to this and I have tried everything to eliminate the whiskey smell,” OP wrote. “A couple days ago…[I] told her that ‘I promise the smell is gone,’ [so] she proceeds to hug me and quickly runs to the bathroom…to vomit.

“She comes back to tell me that ‘she isn’t coming near me at night until this baby comes out [and] proceeds to tell me that she was ‘right’ and that ‘I am being inconsiderate to her introduction to motherhood,'” OP continued.

“I told her she is overreacting and that it is quite disrespectful,” OP added. “She told me that she isn’t trying to be any of those things, she just can’t stand the smell of alcohol.”

Should Expecting Fathers Drink?

While expecting mothers are responsible for bringing new life into the world, fathers-to-be can play a major role in ensuring their partner’s pregnancy unfolds as smoothly as possible.

And like women who are forced to give up specific foods, beverages and activities while pregnant, some men are expected to give up the same things, either in solidarity or because of the potential for harmful effects.

Paul Zalewski, co-founder of parenting website Fathercraft, told Newsweek that sacrifice is necessary during a partner’s pregnancy and that conceding certain indulgences is just the tip of the iceberg when it comes to the first stages of fatherhood.

“Hospitals don’t have cigar lounges where dads-to-be hang out and shake hands with each other while their wife is in labor anymore,” Zalewski said. “Extrapolate that change to after your baby is born, and before.

“Yes, this can include making sacrifices and changes,” he added. “Your partner is going to be sacrificing a heck of a lot more than you are. So ask, listen, and pay attention.”

Success as a father is often a result of success as a partner. And according to Zalewski, the easiest way to ensure success for new fathers is to be as engaged as possible, remaining alert and willing to go the extra mile for soon-to-be mothers.

“Whether it’s the proverbial midnight run to the store for ice cream and pickles, sharing the load by researching the best baby gear out there, or a simple nightly foot rub,” he told Newsweek. “Getting involved and finding ways to help from the moment the pregnancy test comes back positive is the way to start your journey into fatherhood, and to being a great partner, off on the right foot.”

‘More Dedicated To Your Whiskey’

Throughout the comment section of the viral Reddit post, many Redditors echoed that sentiment, while simultaneously questioning why the original poster refuses to give up his nightly whiskey, despite his wife’s physical and verbal responses to it.

“Why are you more dedicated to your nightly whiskey than your pregnant wife?” Redditor u/LadyF16 asked in the post’s top comment, which has received more than 56,000 upvotes.

“‘I love my alcohol more than my wife’ is a terrible look for a relationship,” Redditor u/Lilitu9Tails chimed in, receiving nearly 25,000 upvotes.

Redditor u/StAlvis, whose comment has received more than 10,000 upvotes, took a more direct approach in addressing the original poster.

“YOU MADE HER VOMIT,” they exclaimed. “Stop acting like this is all in her head and read the room.”

“Wait, you think she’s being disrespectful because she doesn’t want to puke??” Redditor u/BeJane759 added, exasperatedly. “What sucks is having a husband who thinks that you vomiting is somehow inconvenient for him.”

“She’s vomiting because of you,” another Redditor commented. “That’s not overreacting. You are underreacting.”

Newsweek reached out to u/Strange-Chipmunk-254 for comment. We could not verify the details of the case.

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