Internet commenters rallied behind one woman whose relationship took a turn for the worse after she found out about her boyfriend’s pair of secret daughters.
In a viral Reddit post published on r/TrueOffMyChest, Redditor u/pink-orchids (otherwise referred to as the original poster, or OP) said she previously had no idea about the children but treated them as her own—until their father stepped out of line one too many times.
Titled, “He’ll be surprised to find his s**t outside on Monday. Just like when he suddenly remembered he was the father of two,” the post has received nearly 21,000 upvotes since September 23.
“After dating for almost 2 years,” OP began, “and never seeing or hearing of any children. He suddenly brought home two precious little girls.”
Continuing to explain that the girls are her boyfriend’s children—which she had never heard so much as a whisper about—OP said their mother was in a car accident and that they needed to stay with their dad indefinitely.
OP also said that she should have kicked her boyfriend out of her home right then, but couldn’t leave his daughters without a place to stay and proper love and care.
“I couldn’t justify the girls suffering,” OP wrote. “I took care of them [and] comforted them when they were worried about losing their mother while he was barely around.
“He expected me to carry the burden of parenting while he watched [TV], was at the gym or was just out,” OP continued. “He never once took the girls to visit their mother in the hospital. He had an excuse every time I asked him to come with us.”
“[Then] he had the audacity to be angry with me, because he feels I haven’t been paying him attention lately,” OP added. “But no worries. The girls are going back home…on Monday and then that f**ker and I are done!”
Blended families, in which at least one partner is accompanied by a child from a previous relationship, are prevalent across the U.S. In fact, 40 percent of married couples with children are considered blended families, according to Smart Stepfamilies, and last decade, data published by Pew Research Center revealed that 16 percent of children in the U.S. are living in blended families.
However, as many previous Newsweek articles have acknowledged, blended families are often faced with challenges stemming from combining two separate nuclear units into one.
And those challenges are magnified when one of the nuclear units was kept under wraps for more than two years.
When a romantic partner conceals a child, for any extended period of time, trust is eroded and the relationship is put into jeopardy.
Whether the other partner, who was kept in the dark, decides to stay is purely circumstantial and in a scenario like the one described by OP, there is the potential that the needs of children outweigh the anger and pain associated with their discovery.
Throughout the comment section of the viral Reddit post, Redditors commended OP for stepping up and taking care of her boyfriend’s two daughters when they so desperately needed it, and for kicking him to the curb the second the girls returned to their mother’s care.
“You will go down in history with those two little girls as some sort of guardian angel,” Redditor u/spidaminida wrote in the post’s top comment, which has received more than 8,000 upvotes. “Thank goodness you stepped up.”
“For real,” Redditor u/DJ_Ayres echoed, receiving nearly 2,000 upvotes. “Because ‘Dad’ clearly didn’t.”
Redditor u/yeet-o-clock, whose comment has received more than 7,000 upvotes, offered a similar response.
“[Win] for taking care of the kids and not letting them suffer while their mom was recovering,” they assured. “Happy for you that you’ll be ending this relationship.”
“Taking care of the kids while their mother was sick was really the kindest thing OP did,” Redditor u/Little-Ease934 added, receiving more than 1,600 upvotes. “I am also glad that OP is ending the relationship ’cause it clearly shows that the man is not at all a good fit.”
“You made sure the children did not suffer even though they were not your children. This is extremely admirable,” Redditor u/krystan chimed in. “Kick this loser out.”
Newsweek reached out to u/pink-orchids for comment.
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